You are a man, or you are a woman. Femininity or masculinity is irrevocably given into our being so that nobody can ever obliterate gender or be correct in claiming, “I am first a person and then female or male.” Our soul has only existed with vitality and potentiality according to the gender God intended for us. I am a man, and not a woman. God spoke very intentionally according to the original Hebrew in Genesis 1:26-28: “Let us make man in our image, male (zakar) and female (neqebah).”
Both genders share a direct correlation between their gender’s glory and gender’s curse. God is not the Author of evil. It is because of Satan’s lie and Adam’s sin (Eve’s too) that people are ruined. It is because God is the giver of all good gifts that we are endowed with glory, that the glory remains, and that His curse is gracious in a mysterious way. Why is the curse directed at the gender’s glory? God has a redemptive aim. Until we admit we are licked, that our autonomous strategies cannot overcome the curse and get us back to Eden, we will never cry out for a Redeemer to save us and transform us into His glorious image again. Dr. Larry Crabb explains:
“God’s judgments on both the man and the woman were neither rude nor uncaring. God’s intent was to discourage Adam and Eve (and their descendants) from thinking that their lives could ever work without him and to help them realize that the full realization of joy awaits a new heaven and earth. He wanted to hedge them in, to surface a despair that would drive them back to himself.” Larry Crabb, Men & Women: Enjoying the Difference, (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan, 1991), 150–158.
In one sense, both are true about every Christian. For example, I am a glorious man and a fallen man. In the words of C.S. Lewis in Prince Caspian: “You come of the Lord Adam and the Lady Eve, and that’s both honor enough to lift up the head of the poorest beggar, and shame enough to bow the shoulders of the greatest emperor on earth.” Since I am a Christian, however, I am also a redeemed man. Each new creation in Christ is all three; namely, a redeemed glorious-ruin (Lewis’ terminology).
This picture was recently taken of our grandchildren, grandsons and granddaughters – Male and female from the womb. They are glorious ruins, and we ask God for Him to pour out His Spirit upon them and to apply the redemption Jesus accomplished on the cross (Isaiah 44:3-5).
Embracing your true identity according to gender, then, requires an understanding of all three aspects of glory, fall, and redemption.